Objective

Children are our future, marching towards better humankind. It is our foremost responsibility and duty to understand this important aspect and come out with level best to help them in their quest.

Children in our society are tagged both as privileged and non-privileged class. But they need to be mandatorily covered under some kind of scheme; whereby they can leverage equal opportunity of food, shelter, clothing, healthcare and most importantly education.

Scope

Scope of this post is limited to the critical building block “Education”. While we take up this critical building block, we would get into an interesting stream of thought process whereby we would try and understand as how we can help our children in picking up a right career path at an earlier stage and help shaping their future.

“You need to…” Problem?

As a kid takes the first baby step, proud parents start fantasizing as how their kid would stand few years ahead from now. Some would want their kid to become a specialist physician; some would say that their child is going to become a top notch lawyer, while many would see their kid to become top brass bureaucrat. This wish list as what their kid would become in time to come vary from parents to guardians. Strange enough, nobody cares about the liking of the kid, nobody bothers about to gauge the potential of the kid, rather all proud parents want to see their wards to ride on the bandwagon which they dream off.  And it is very unfortunate to observe that how this underline “You need to become …..” decree of the parents becomes potential ruiner of a bright career of their child. Amazingly enough though the inbuilt brilliance of some kids helps them to excel in their career paths as scripted by their parents. Now let us imagine for a minute, how far these kids would have gone with these kind of brilliance, in case the career paths were of their liking and taste.  Knowingly or unknowingly, whatever the case may be, it is criminal to decide on the career path of our kids as per our wish and liking. Why the heck we want to see our kids as tomorrows doctors, lawyers, bureaucrat so on and so forth.  Why we fail to understand that after all our kids are human too, of flesh and blood with same anatomy as our with abundance of feelings and emotions. They too have the same potential; perhaps more than what we have, therefore why our kids should not decide on their career paths? And, we as parents should be only focusing on giving them the right kind of atmosphere, required help, assistance and most importantly guidance to make them understand as what is good and bad. Rest, we should leave them map their career path vis-à-vis their liking & taste and unleash their potential to make it real big. That is the way actually things should have been instead of that “You need to…” problem, which unfortunately seems to stand out everywhere.

Effects of “You need to…” Problem

Now that we understand the problem to its core, let us look at the ill effects that are sprouted by virtue of this. As our kids start going to their schools, our wishes and objectives start surfacing more prominently. It is absolutely inhuman to see these small kids struggling to make their way to the schools with a truck load of books and other stationary. One will never make it out as which standard these kids are studying. The load that the first standard kid carries is almost the same of the child who is going to class sixth. Then they study at school, study at home, busy with the tuition class. Study and study at every possible time to prepare for the tests and exams. Point here is that we too have gone through this same cycle in our times, but hardly can we recollect an incident when we felt so overburdened by the study load, as our kids are facing today. Yes, this is a harsh reality one need to accept. Unknowingly we are just over killing the innocence of our kids. As a result, their gesture and behavior gradually starts reflecting stubbornness, harshness and other adjectives which we never can think of for our kid. But fact of the matter is that, the kids audacity tends to grow more and accelerates directly at the rate with which we retaliate and try to straighten them in order to make them intact within the set goals and objective. This is absolutely unwarranted and uncalled for. Neither we as a parent want to compromise on fantasizing the grand dream of our kids’ future nor are we willing to understand their liking, taste, desire and aspiration. Thus a communication gap is developed between the kids and the parents and it only gets widened with time. This is actually a very nasty situation, which no parent will ever like to tread upon. But irony of the entire situation is that every parent will ever willingly give up their fantasy, the dream of looking their child becoming what they want to, had they get any indication that it is killing their child softly inside. No parents will ever like to get into this situation. Unfortunately, there is no alarm which rings during such alert situations and by the time a parent realizes the actual problem, it’s often too late by then. Alas! the communication gap is never bridged and it’s only because the child is completely shackled and goes into aloofness. They work in reactive and robotic mode and only to the extent which gives satisfactory responses to their parents, nothing more and nothing less. This is very risky and dangerous.

A child who is affected with such syndrome gradually loses all the brilliance and end up landing into a mediocre career stream. This is very unlikely to what their parents had been fantasizing from day one and now this. A parent will never want to get into this situation and therefore a child needs to speak his mind and heart out. But the question is how?

We need to have somebody with whom the child can share his feelings, thoughts, likings, disliking, tastes etc.

  

To address this typical situation, platform Saarthi is envisaged.